Showing posts from February, 2020

How Snapchat Changed Dating

I have been at this dating thing for quite a while now. When I took my first dip into online dating, it was still very new and even considered taboo. I wouldn’t call myself a pioneer, but when I started, flip phones were still popular and I had never even heard of the word ‘app’. And Snapchat had not been invented. We didn’t even really text much back then. We emailed then talked on the phone and then we met. It was a fairly simple process. Now, don’t get me wrong. Dating has always been challenging. It’s never easy to find just the right spark and match and s omeone with the same set of quirks, or accepting of others . But back then, g etting from point A (a profile) to point B (an actual live in-person date) was straight forward. That is not the case anymore. I could blame my age. I could blame the MeToo movement. I could blame my shrinking patience and expanding waistline. But I blame Snapchat. Snapchat was the brainchild of some restless gu

3 Keys To Not Sink Your Ship - The VASA Syndrome

The VASA is a Swedish warship from 1628 that sank 1400 yards into its maiden voyage killing 30 of the crew. The ship was ordered to be built by reigning King of Sweden; Gustavus Adolphus. During the 17th century, Sweden was growing in world prominence partly due to their military dominance led by King Adolphus. Up until that point, most of the naval fleets were small to medium size vessels with only one gundeck and armed with medium size cannons. The king’s vision was to create a more massive ship with a double gundeck and more/larger cannons and artillery. That goal, in and of itself, was not a bad idea. He saw a problem and worked out what he thought was an outstanding solution. The problem was in the execution of the plan, and that is where we get into trouble in our own lives. The king took shortcuts, didn’t listen to wise advice and let his pride overtake his sensibilities. The result was disastrous, and oftentimes we are guilty of those same mistakes. As we travel th

How to Handle Bad News (Bombshells and Eggshells)

We don’t have to journey very far down life’s highway before we encounter some roadblocks. Often this means dealing with bad or disappointing news. Bombshells are usually dropped when we least expect them and feel the least capable of handling them. It can be a text, phone call or the dreaded knock on the door. Maybe you lost your job, had someone end a relationship, got a bad medical report, or one of your kids got in trouble. It could be a rejection (or several) in pursuit of a dream or goal. We have little choices when it comes to receiving bad news, but we certainly have choices in how we deal with it. Here are some of my suggestions. Breathe Not everyone has a full-on panic attack when bad things happen, but most of us do have a physical reaction. We feel anxious, sad, and maybe even all alone. Fear shows up almost immediately. Take a few minutes to just breathe. Shut out the rest of the world, even the current news, and focus on clearing your mind. Deep breathin