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Don't You Trust Me? (How Doubt and Betrayal Affect Our Relationships)

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It goes without saying that trust is the foundation of a relationship. Like a foundation, it is built up over time, brick by brick, until it is a stable platform from which everything else rests on. There are specific ways to build trust, and there are also behaviors that erode it. Let’s take a look at both. Building Trust Do What You Say If you make a commitment; follow through. Be on time. Run that errand. Do the chore. Return that call/text. If you prove to be a man/woman of your word, then you begin to build trust. Your partner needs to know they can depend on you to do what you say you will do. Allow Yourself to Be Vulnerable This can sometimes be very difficult, especially if we have been badly hurt before. The problem is, as long as that wall is there, the trust just sits waiting on the outside. We have to be raw and available in order to allow the expectation of good to grow. Value Your Partner They can do and say all the right things, but if you don’

Medication for Mental Disorders – The Pros, The Cons, The Acceptance

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Week 6 – Family to Family Series - NAMI There are almost as many different types of medications for mental illness as there are diagnoses and the side effects can be wide-ranging. Many people with brain disorders struggle with starting and maintaining a solid medication regiment. The more information we have as a family, the better we can support our loved one in finding the right medicines and encourage them to stay consistent with the plan. Why Acceptance To Meds Is So Difficult If we get a sinus infection, hurt in an accident, or even a more serious medical condition we do not hesitate to take the prescribed drugs to help us feel better and heal. So why is it so difficult for those with a mental illness do the same with their symptoms? Admitting the Need Most of us know when we are physically sick. There is a large portion of those who are mentally ill that refuse to accept there is anything wrong. They try to convince themselves it is a phase (or maybe someone in thei

3 Steps to Problem Solving - When Mental Illness Issues Affect the Family Home

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NAMI Family to Family Series – Week 5 Having someone in the home with a mental illness can often cause conflict and chaos. Outbursts, not following the house rules, and refusing to communicate are all examples of how disruptive it can be to everyone involved. Your loved one who is suffering and unable to live independently relies on you for many things. Because of that, there are some simple rules they should be able and willing to follow to make the home as comfortable as possible. When problems do come up, it is a good idea to brainstorm solutions with the family before presenting them to your loved one. In the middle of a crisis, it isn’t fair or productive to include them in the discussion. They will most likely not be receptive and will pick up real quickly on anyone in the family who is wavering. Let’s walk through the steps to restore some peace and harmony to the home. Step 1 – Define the Problem 1 - Pick the most pressing issue You can only solve one problem at

I Am More Than A Label

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As a society, we put labels on everything. Some are necessary.    I need to know the expiration date on the cheese that has been in the bottom drawer of my refrigerator for two months (I mean weeks).     Some are frivolous. Yes, I know taking a bath with my space heater is not a good idea.  But sometimes I think we have gone overboard with the labels. Especially the ones attached to humans. Rarely are they correct and more importantly, even if they do fit SOME of the time, all of us have so many layers that go into making us who we are.    Here are a few of MY non-labels!   Labe l  me an  i ntrovert BUT I’m not anti - social Well, maybe I am a little, but only if I’m annoyed or very tired. I love talking to people. I especially love hearing their stories; the good ones and the sad ones. I am honored when someone trusts me enough to share their journey with me. I may not be the life of the party, but I’ve made peace with that.    Label m

The Art Of Small Talk - Help For The Socially Awkward

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I'm really writing this for me, but I thought I would bring you along for the ride.  Whether you are on a first date, a business meeting, a social setting or just a ridiculously long line, knowing the art of small talk is a life-saver.  I am notoriously bad at it; seriously. I have been known to walk the long way around the parking lot to avoid having to having to walk in with someone and feel obligated to share chit-chat. I know, it's so sad.  However, instead of continuing to wallow in my defeat, I decided to find better ways to handle this and I am going to share them with you.  Sometimes it's not just knowing what to say, but how to say it. Everyone has a different communication style, and when small talk is challenging it helps to have some tips in your conversation arsenal.  Pretend You Are Interested I know the 'fake it 'til you make it' advice sounds lame, but it just might work. People are drawn to enthusiasm. Keep a go-to qu

Digital Infidelity - The Rise Of Online Cheating

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T here is a ton of information available for online dating. From how to post a winning profile to when and where of the first meet and greet. The darker underside of this is the new trend of  online cheating.   Why Do People Cheat People cheat for different reasons. Some out of spite. Some out of boredom. Others cheat because they never really wanted to be in a relationship/marriage, and believe they were talked/bribed/coerced in some manner to go through with it and now have regrets.   Regardless of the reason, it is a destructive action that most relationships never fully recover from.   Nowadays there is a new game in town. Digital cheating is at an all-time high. Infidelity has always been a part of the relationship world, but social media and having the world literally in the palm of your hand (cell phone) makes it so much easier today than it did just 10 or even 5 years ago.   Where Do People Cheat   You can meet someone who turns your h