The Journey Of Your Words - Where Are They Taking You?
We are a world of words. They are everywhere.
24 hour news cycles.
Endless social media streaming.
Tik-Tok Fever (Not sure how the sound of a clock became the name of the fastest rising video sharing service.)
We are showered with words, thoughts, ideas, agendas, philosophies, opinions, and viewpoints in an endless cycle.
So what is the aftermath of all this information? What is the consequence of all those words?
Life Is A Journey of Words
One of the first sounds most newborns hear is the sweet voice of their mother. This sound (vibration) literally follows them the rest of their life. The longing to hear the sound of your mother's voice never goes away.
Soon after, the race is on to teach that precious child as many words as possible.
Children develop their first ideas about the world from their parents. Right or wrong, good or bad. Their consciousness is shaped by the very words overheard at the dinner table, in the car, and even through closed doors in hushed tones.
A victim mentality, all types of prejudices, intolerance, bias etc - these are not genetic traits. No one is born having those thoughts or reactions. They are learned and/or followed behaviors. (The same holds true for kindness, charity, thoughtfulness, acceptance, etc.)
And they are learned to a great extent through WORDS.
The good news is that not all children who grow up hearing words of hate grow up to hate. Some do develop the interest and curiosity to expand their view. They widen their circle and set out to discover the words of others and from different opinions.
I recently read, and re-quoted, a phrase that simply said "you can't change the people around you, but you can change the people you choose to be around".
The Words You Hear
Words are little seeds looking for a place to be planted, take root, and grow into ideas.
As mentioned above, a child's mind and heart are extremely fertile ground and those seeds settle quickly and sprout. They really have no choice to control what they hear or what's planted and it can be a long and deliberate process to pluck out the bad.
Children who were told they weren't good enough, smart enough, attractive enough grow up to believe they are inferior and typically align themselves with partners who reinforce those beliefs.
Children who grow up in a polarizing and prejudice atmosphere are more likely to carry on those beliefs.
The words you hear help steer your life's journey. Where have you traveled based on the negativity or affirmation you received? Did you travel down a road towards happiness? Or did you take a detour into self-doubt and get stuck in fear and confusion?
The good news about the adult brain is that the ground is less fertile and we have more power than we think to control what takes root.
You are NOT the sum of the WORDS someone says about you. You are not destined to journey towards despair and the bleak.
Today is the day you can begin to re-write the story of your life. To choose different WORDS to re-shape and re-define the person you want to become. You are not tied to a specific destination.
Re-set your internal GPS with WORDS of hope and encouragement and joy!
The Words You Say
In the same way that the words of others impact you, your WORDS have the same power over others.
Every time you speak to someone you have the choice to offer encouragement, wisdom, love - OR you can choose to plant fear, disharmony, strife.
Not only can words map out your destination, you can lead others as well. You can take them with you to opportunity or mire them down in defeat.
Oh, but you say, I can't help it. I am who I am. People have to 'deal'. This is only true if you are a robot, which I highly doubt any form of artificial intelligence would take their time to read my blog.
You DO have the power to change your outlook and your words.
How do you speak to your partner? Are you affirming? Loving? Encouraging?
What words do your children hear most out of your mouth? Do they inspire? Teach? Guide? Uplift?
It is not my intention to hammer away with MY words and make you feel bad. But it is my goal to help you examine the far-reaching vines of your interactions with others.
We all can do better.
The Words You Tell Yourself
Sometimes the most damaging words that fall on our ears come out of our own mouth.
Why do we do this to ourselves?
Sometimes it's a product of what we have heard others say to us. Other times is it buying into hype on social media about what we should have, be, think, or look like.
When we fail to measure up to someone else's standard, we often berate and ridicule ourselves. Saying things in the mirror we would never say to anyone else.
Listen to me.... Your goal is never measured by another's. The benchmarks you set for your career, health, style, relationships, and dreams should be driven by what's in YOUR heart.
You MUST speak words of acceptance and value and inspiration to yourself even if no one else ever does.
What I am suggesting is not easy. I don't pretend to say it is. Blocking out any negative you hear. Being mindful of what you say. Becoming your own best friend. The truth is - it will take diligence and purpose.
Those roots can run deep and the roadway so familiar the thought of anything else is overwhelming. But my dear Hopefuls, I do want you to understand that change IS possible. That good IS around the bend. That you ARE deserving of happiness, peace, and HOPE!
If nothing else, I HOPE these words brought reassurance and comfort to your life today.
I trust the journey of your words lead you to JOY!
And as always....
Hope With Abandon