So Apparently I Have Social Anxiety - Now What?
So apparently I have social anxiety. Which was a bit of a surprise to me actually. Because I genuinely like people. Not that those with social anxiety don't, but again, I was pretty inaccurate about my understanding of the condition.
I have sung an original song on the piano in church. (Many, many years ago mind you.) But someone with social anxiety wouldn't do that, right?
I have taught classes. (Same concept).
I have spoken in front of people at book signings. (Not that many of these either.) But, again, that doesn't sound like social anxiety.
Yet my therapist told me this week she thinks I have it.
Ok, yes. I have a therapist. That's not exactly something I want to shout from the rooftops, and yet still here I am shouting it from my Chromebook. Why? Because it's OK to not be OK sometimes.
A fresh perspective is good. Meaningful insight. A nurse practitioner for the mind/emotions so to say.
Anyway, I got off topic. If you are surprised or disappointed that I'm seeing a therapist, well, so be it. That's the part of social anxiety I'm trying to work on anyway. Other's opinions of me.
You see, I always thought I was just an introvert. Quiet. Reflective. Prefer solitude. Crowds drain me. And while on some level I think I am, in fact, an introvert that does not predispose me to be socially anxious.
So after the possible bomb drop of this opinion led me to investigate further. This is what I found.
The Difference Between Being An Introvert and Socially Anxious
- You were born with the traits that make up being an introvert. It is biology.
- Social anxiety is a learned behavior based on a variety of factors or experiences.
- An introvert is not afraid of social settings. They just need time afterward to recharge and reflect.
- The socially anxious will avoid social settings to avoid feeling inferior or incompetent or judged.
- An introvert is comfortable with who they are.
- Social anxiety robs an individual of ever feeling complete, good enough, or worthy.
The Traits Of Social Anxiety
What Causes Social Anxiety
Where Does That Put Me
How To Improve Social Anxiety
Journal Your Feelings